To like, love and dislike

I have five friends. I don’t mean five close friends or people I trust and can count on or people I have known longest, I mean I have five friends in total. In life. They are all extremely close and important to me.
So it’s safe to say I am not a very social person. I’m not asocial per say, but I find it hard to be the kind of person who walks into a room and makes small talk with everyone (I think those kind of people are awesome though!). I generally like people though, all kinds of people and I would never in my wildest dreams imagine being unkind to anyone on purpose.
Which is why it came as a huge shock the other day when I was informed by someone that an old classmate of mine doesn’t like me.
As far as my memory of her stretches, we have always been on cordial terms. I’ve never done her any harm directly or indirectly and there was no bad blood between us. However, I suppose it’s safe to say that neither was there any love lost.
This really got me thinking, about what I am not sure. I can’t judge or comment because in all honesty I do this quite a bit as well. I dislike people I barely know. Sure, I claim it is based on things I’ve ‘seen and heard’, but if I truly wish to face the music the truth is that I am none the wiser. I judge people who I don’t know well, I form opinions based on irrelevant experiences, I hold grudges against people who do the same things some of my closest friends do. The truth is that I am SO flawed and so astutely aware of it that I almost can’t take offence for her disliking me.
This should be an experience in my life where my eyes are opened and I realize that we need to look past what we think we see and love and accept everyone or at least give them a fair chance to prove themselves a jackass, right? Well WRONG.
I say we should try to love everyone, but it’s okay if there are some people who we just don’t like. Love the essence within every person, love how differently their mind thinks, love how they’re wonderful at what they do best, love that they are human, just like us, but you don’t have to like everyone. There will be some people who’ve always given you bad vibes, who’ve always had a condescending approach, who’ve always managed to somehow annoy you, you don’t need to like them, it’s alright, but love them anyway.
I think this rather funny message actually makes sense to me today, I hope it makes sense to you too.

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