The kinda love we all need

e14941d379a57fe0d56f65511f12b0ddA couple days ago, one of my favourite ladies said to me “Tell me something about self love.”

So I’ll tell you something about self love. Heck it’s YOU guys, I’ll tell you everything I know!

Let’s go on a little journey, shall we? Just you and me, my favourites!

I really like you, I think you are amazing in all your little quirks, I think you are flawless in all your little flaws and I think that you will change things here, in this world, in our world.

Don’t get me wrong though, I think I am pretty damn fabulous too. I think we both are.

I said to her, I think I always rather liked myself, who knows maybe I am one of the lucky ones who is naïve enough to think of themselves and be in awe, but I think we could all really get there.

Growing up there were things I couldn’t accept about how I was, sometimes even about who I was, I’d think, so maybe my nose could be a little more aquiline, maybe my hair could be a little straighter, maybe if I could sing a little better, maybe if I had an insane amount of knowledge about one topic in this world (and believe me I would dedicate an insane amount of time intensely studying things like countries in Africa because I wanted to know something about something!).

I thought that these things would somehow make me more worthy, more worthy of love. I was on a hunt to impress, to impress this imaginary human being I had forever created beside me who was somehow to determine my self worth. I wish that I could say to you that one day I opened my eyes and  I realized that this person was no one but me, but I don’t think it was really that easy.

Over the past decade there have been lows dragging through the trenches and highs soaring through the skies, and I think again I’m one of those lucky few who life was so kind with to take me down the right paths that would lead me to my heart.

So when I ask myself how do you fall in love with yourself, how did I fall in love with myself, well, the answer isn’t as one track as all that.

I think it is important to know that you can do things, no matter who you are, what you look like, what your talents are or are not, you are here for reasons, you are here to touch lives and the only way you can do that is to be the truest version of yourself. You are created to be EXACTLY how you are, exactly who you are and you have to stop fighting it. You have to stop belittling it, because who you are is magnanimous.

Change the voices in your head. Tell yourself that you are magnanimous. Every. Single. Day.

There are things you can do that not one single person on this earth can, even if it is just to have that one thought, maybe that will be the thought that soothes your best friends pain today, and that means you are worthy, just as you are. It means you are perfect, just as you are.

You are unique, stop thinking of things you are not, things you cannot, because they don’t matter, because those were never and will never be the definition of you, and guess what sweety? You don’t need them to be.

Change the notions in your mind that there are people, anyone, greater than you are. Everyone is nothing but a great version of themselves. Stop trying to be the best version of someone else. Embrace your own greatness and strive to be all of you.

Perfection is nothing but a flawed word. It is a word that sets you up to fail. Quit thinking about it, this instant. Just stop.

What if I told you that being perfect is nothing but what you choose to make of it? Never has been anything but. Could you accept that? When you do, you will learn to love yourself a little more, or maybe a whole lot more.

You have a choice. You could choose to see my words as words and move along to the next blog. Or maybe, just maybe you could take a few moments to pause and tell yourself that you need to change your truth. You need to find the way to your heart because that is where you belong.

I love you y’know, I hope you are in love with yourself too. Crazily, madly, stupidly, inconveniently, irrationally in love with yourself. You should be cause you’re quite the something.


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